Who am I to judge, right....BUT....

So my BFF has been seeing this guy for a couple months..a real random meeting. Anyway, so she goes on date with him and I'm genuinely excited for her. The guy before that led a double-life, literally, with a fiance and house on the side. It gets worse than that but I won't get into the crazy details. Let's just say they broke up but because he was literally crazy, but she let him "crash" in her apartment for an entire year post-breakup. I used to receive phone calls from her from her when he used to barricade himself in her bathroom with knives, or when he used to stalk her and continuously knock on her door all through the night. So after dealing with such foolishness I guess ANY man at this point would suffice. Ok, back to the new guy...on their second date is when he makes the revelation that he has 5 kids (one not biologically his) with FOUR different women..the oldest ones are 17, 18, youngest is 8 years old, and while he was out on a date with her, his "ex" and her son were still living with him, but in the process of moving out. Which, I guess she finally did. Talk about deal-breakers! She didn't take this lightly at all, but instead focused on the fact that he is Muslim..I don't get it- I'd be more concerned about the kids, HIV/AIDS, promiscuity, baby-mommas, ex in play..is it just me? When she would discuss him and her concerns about continuing to see him, I gave her my honest opinion about the situation..she couldn't get over the religion issue, and I couldn't get over the kids and baby-moms. But at the same time I encouraged her to see him, go on dates, have a good time, and if she doesn't think she can over his issues then just don't get emotionally attached. After the past 2 years she had she deserved to get her mind off things and move forward! And anyway, who am I to judge right?

So I haven't heard from her in three weeks...three damn weeks! We NEVER have gone that long without speaking, plus there are some things I am going through right now,health-wise and personal, that she completely has ignored--straight up ignored. You know how you are talking but can tell the other person's not attentive..that's how the e-mails have been. So yesterday after I reached out to her she emails me,attached to it is the picture of her and the guy on Valentine's Day. They make a good couple and they look happy..but instinct or something tells me this isn't right..maybe it's just me. If she can gloss over certain aspects of his life I guess I can too, maybe. I hope this works out for her and he doesn't break her heart. But I am so mad at the fact that she hasn't been there for me as a friend like she normally is..I guess he's taking up all of her time and energy. I am always there for her no matter what, even when things are going great for me and bad for her..I have ALWAYS taken the time out to listen and make sure she is okay. So would I be wrong this go-around to ignore her if shit hits the fan? I can't stand when friendship is not reciprocated in the same manner that I extend myself for others.