In one week these two incidents occurred in the NYC Metro area, one even occurred 5 minutes away from me. Whenever I hear of DV incidents I take it very personally. For the past 5 years I have been an advocate and volunteer in the fields of Domestic and Sexual Violence; I spent almost 2 years as a volunteer Rape Crisis Counselor. I have been affected by DV in my own personal life and have lost loved ones to senseless acts of violence. How can a man kill his own child for the sake of getting back at the mother (shown here), how can another (married) man murder the mother of his child, kidnap and abandon his 20 month old baby (shown here) ? I am usually not a supporter for the Death Penalty but in these cases these men deserve to die in the same manner they killed their victims... drop the coward over a bridge and choke and burn the other bastard! I can go on about this forever but I will refrain from doing so, instead I will provide you with a brief synopsis of DV and information on how you may get help. If you need assistance or further information, you may even contact me!
FORMS OF ABUSE:
PHYSICAL ABUSE: Grabbing, pinching, shoving, slapping, hitting, hair pulling, biting, etc....
SEXUAL ABUSE: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent, e.g., marital rape (YES EVEN IF YOU ARE MARRIED IT CAN BE CONSIDERED RAPE!!!), forcing sex after physical beating, attacks on sexual parts of the body or treating another in a sexually demeaning manner; forcing the victim to perform sexual acts on another person, on the Internet, or pose for sexually explicit photographs against her will.
ECONOMIC ABUSE: Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent, e.g., maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding access to money, forbidding attendance at school or employment.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Undermining sense of self-worth, e.g., constant criticism, belittling one's abilities, name calling, damaging a partner's relationship with the children.
PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE: intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner or children, destruction of pets and property, mind games or forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or work...this is often the feeling of "walking on eggshells" as to not upset your partner.
SEXUAL COERCION AND REPRODUCTIVE CONTROL: When a partner sabotages your birth control efforts by demanding unprotected sex, lying about "pulling out," hiding or destroying birth control (i.e., flushing pills down the toilet or poking a hole in a condom), preventing you from getting an abortion or forcing you to get an abortion.
There are many organizations available in every community that can provide you with resources and information on how to get assistance. Call your local DV shelter..if you are in immediate danger call 911. You are not alone and never deserve to be mistreated!
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE
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