INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND UNLUCKY-You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you.... Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
I can't take credit for this, got this from a friend's Facebook status, but this so true and applicable to a recent experience. Let's just say that I'm quite used to negativity and careless, non-constructive criticism from other, more specifically, my sisters. (You're moving where, you're buying what, you're going where, you're working out, you're volunteering, you're majoring in that, the list goes on and on...) I should mention an overbearing, controlling, manipulative, and overly-needy Mom who has become my burden and lives vicariously through me. Through the years I have thought and been told it's because they are unhappy with their own situations and deflect on me, but it recently crossed the line when it was displayed on FACEBOOK....(really, the whole world needs to see/read this right now....you're mad at him but taking out on me...you're failing to look at your own life right now, your deception, your secrets, your bad relationships, etc... and concentrate on mine...really)?
So after my big sister calls me a jerk, a jackass, shady, and every other thing she needs to air out openly, she has the nerve to ask if I can drive two hours up to her house to get her kids, then drive another two down so they can visit. Mind you, she doesn't have a license at the age of 38, never has and never owned a car. Her useless, deadbeat dad of a "boyfriend" of the past 18 years will be the continuous jerk and not offer to do drive his kids down to their Grandmother's. He will rather have his two children ride on the bus, or if she has her kids ask and beg him enough, he'll ask his parents to use their car. But on Facebook she has no problem berating my significant other and I, who have done more for her kids than their own father.
My older and "perfect" sister started it although she didn't go as far. Mind you she has a potentially fatal, chronic condition that she never revealed to any of our family. I was told by her perverted husband that makes me uncomfortable every time I'm around him. Stop worrying about me, gossiping, and making smart remarks on anything I post on Facebook. Start living honestly, take care of yourself and your health, appreciate and spend more time with your own family rather than your in-laws, and deal with your husband and marriage.
I'm not perfect...I've made plenty of mistakes. There are things I could have and still can do better... but I'm, honest, transparent, non-judgmental, and don't bring negativity onto others. I am happy with my life because I choose to live and make my own choices.
Ok, I let it out...I feel better now :)
:) I relate!
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